Marriage in Islam is about love and togetherness, of sharing in one’s happiness but also sharing in the spouse’s miseries and sadness. It’s a two way road and Allah has asked us to embrace it. Allah understand that when a man and woman get married and live together, it is not the end, the happily ever after. Rather it is the beginning of a new relationship where love, compassion and respect for each other will reign. With happy days there will come sad days and the married Muslim couple have got to hold each other’s hand and go through this life together.
Allah has said in the Quran: “With hardships comes ease”. This means that easy and difficult situations in life are all part of it. When a husband and wife face a troubled situation whilst married, it is the duty of the other spouse to support and be there for the one facing the difficulty. The difficulty could be of any form. The loss of a job, ill health, societal problems such as those with in-laws and even the most heart breaking ones, the death of a close and loved one.
The death of someone close to you can have a shattering effect. It is the rightful duty of the spouse, in such a situation, to be the pillar of strength of the spouse. It is normal for a person to grieve at the loss of thero loved ones. When the Holy Prophet’s (PBUH) wife Hazrat Khadijah passed away, the holy Prophet grieved a lot and even after years of her death, he used to remember her and proclaim,
“She believed in me when none else did. She embraced Islam when people disbelieved me. And she helped and comforted me when there was none else to lend me a helping hand.”
The Holy Prophet (PBUH) prayed for her and always kept her in his heart. When your spouse loses someone dear to them, you are entitled to give them all the love and support you can muster. Also, you must make them understand that everything happens for a reason, even the heart that is hurting is because of a reason; it is Allah’s plan to bring them close to Him. So stick by your prayers and support your spouse to stick by theirs. Once you and your spouse do Allah’s zikr, the pain in the heart will lessen considerably and they will see a new light. The light that will take them to the straight path so that they can join in Jannah those who they couldn’t join in this world, InshAllah. Ameen. So guide your spouse towards the remembrance of Allah and heal their broken heart.
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