Making Communication in Marriage live!

Posted by on Oct 19, 2014 in Islam, Marriage | 0 comments

Making Communication in Marriage live!

When Allah asked us to embrace one of the most important relationships of the world, marriage, He said in the QuranHe created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. (Quran 30:21)”. So we ponder on this verse said by Allah in the Quran and realize that Allah made husbands and wives for each other so that they live in peace and harmony. The word tranquility meant that. And we hence realized that no peace can exist without the husband and wife communicating with each other on a healthy level.

When 2 people are married it involves a lot of adjustment to life to be living with a person the whole while. It involves exchanging love, your opinions, your ideas with them and bringing them onto the same wave length as you are or understanding their own wave length. Ofcourse during the course of this, disagreements may arise and for that Allah has prescribed the attribute of compromise within us. But to be doing all of this, to putting forward your thoughts and feelings and ideas all comes down the effectiveness of communication. Hence no marriage is successful without effective communication.

Just like when a river flows smoothly without any obstacle to its destination, so should marriages work in a flow and that is possible only through a lively communication and talks between spouses. And just like when there are obstacles in the rivers way, huge stones and blocks, the flow of the river gets turbulent. So does the marriage when there a block in communication. The disturbance hence becomes so severe if the gap in communication increases that it eventually leads to destruction in marriage.

So liven your communication in marriage and make it successful! There need not be a deep conversation (although that is definitely not a bad idea!) but general discussion about the day, what you feel about the new maid that has joined the house, the match that is scheduled for next week or the dinner you are going to be hosting the day after. Be candid, be true, be real and be nice.  Talk it out with your spouses and make the communication in your marriage live!

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